Today's thought.

[B B]

On 18/08/2025 at 22:37, salokcinnodrog said:

Oh grief!

I am so wound up. My father is 84, and has dementia so my brother and I split visits with him a few times a week each as he is still independent and living on his own.

Today was my day, and I had to be there from 10am until his normal medication delivery arrived, but immediately after had to go pick up his antibiotics prescription from Boots and do him some shopping, which involved a trip into town.

So one of the 'homeless' trying to 'help' at the car park ticket machine, in other words beg.

This idiot chose to give me verbals in Ipswich town centre, and then decided to try to push me when I refused his assistance as I paid on my card. I put him down and left him tangled up in the post at the car park. Got back to my car and he was taking photos of my car.

He then tried to carry on with the mouth and wanting to fight. I just picked his bike up and moved it and him out of the way.

You can see what happened to his trousers when I left him attached to the post by the waistband

Iv had a run in with a deliver bike he must have been going 20mph he skidded to a stop and we both went down, sadly I lost my balance as I got up and stood on his front wheel damaging the spokes then would you believe it trying to untangle my foot I stepped on the back wheel 🫢

[crusian]

6 hours ago, B B said:

Iv had a run in with a deliver bike he must have been going 20mph he skidded to a stop and we both went down, sadly I lost my balance as I got up and stood on his front wheel damaging the spokes then would you believe it trying to untangle my foot I stepped on the back wheel 🫢

How unfortunately clumsy of you BB 😁 .

[commonly]

I don't ever want a repeat of yesterday.

A friends lake, troubled with 2 large fallen trees, excessive Canadian and pond weed, lack of any rain (which usually helps keep good water quality).

8 gone, between 15-30lb.

Sad day

[salokcinnodrog]

I really don't know where to start!

It's been a difficult few weeks with my dad in hospital since a fall at his flat in August. Just when we thought he was recovering, he had a chest infection turn into pneumonia while in the rehab community hospital at Aldeburgh, so got rushed back to Ipswich Hospital A&E on Saturday night, where he has been ever since.

Back in August I made a long Facebook post https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1JEEY9X2sB/ 

[yonny]

Sorry to hear that @salokcinnodrog. I hope he pulls through.

Those waits @ A&E you refer to in your FB post are horrendous. A very close friend of mine had a stroke last week. He was taken to hospital and dumped in A&E for 12 hours before receiving any treatment. It's completely unacceptable.

[crusian]

On 04/09/2025 at 23:17, salokcinnodrog said:

I really don't know where to start!

It's been a difficult few weeks with my dad in hospital since a fall at his flat in August. Just when we thought he was recovering, he had a chest infection turn into pneumonia while in the rehab community hospital at Aldeburgh, so got rushed back to Ipswich Hospital A&E on Saturday night, where he has been ever since.

Back in August I made a long Facebook post https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1JEEY9X2sB/ 

Hi Nick 

Sorry I've just read your post .

So how is your Dad at the moment , please ? . 

I recently took my Wife to A&E , Ipswich Hospital , and we were in there overnight for 12 hours , so I know exactly what it's like . You were great in keeping your temper under control under stressful circumstances , I could have quite happily punched the first hospital employee I saw who just wound me up . 

My Mum had dementia , and it became too hard for her to live at home so she went to live in a friendly  care home in the village . 

Fortunately I didn't have to deal with a social worker , just a care home Manager with empathy , and knew what she was doing .

Take care .

😃 

[salokcinnodrog]

9 hours ago, crusian said:

Hi Nick 

Sorry I've just read your post .

So how is your Dad at the moment , please ? . 

I recently took my Wife to A&E , Ipswich Hospital , and we were in there overnight for 12 hours , so I know exactly what it's like . You were great in keeping your temper under control under stressful circumstances , I could have quite happily punched the first hospital employee I saw who just wound me up . 

My Mum had dementia , and it became too hard for her to live at home so she went to live in a friendly  care home in the village . 

Fortunately I didn't have to deal with a social worker , just a care home Manager with empathy , and knew what she was doing .

Take care .

😃

Hopefully my dad should be going back to the community hospital for rehabilitation tomorrow. He has managed to get around using a walking frame with the physio.

[crusian]

1 hour ago, salokcinnodrog said:

Hopefully my dad should be going back to the community hospital for rehabilitation tomorrow. He has managed to get around using a walking frame with the physio.

Well that's sounds encouraging , Nick .

When your Dad is back at Aldeburgh hopefully you can draw breath , and relax a little after your difficult few weeks .

With these big winds , and rain of late they should be biting down your syndicate .

😃  

[salokcinnodrog]

1 hour ago, crusian said:

Well that's sounds encouraging , Nick .

When your Dad is back at Aldeburgh hopefully you can draw breath , and relax a little after your difficult few weeks .

With these big winds , and rain of late they should be biting down your syndicate .

😃  

No chance of getting to the syndicate while he is in hospital, even if he goes to Aldeburgh. He needs the social time with my brother and myself so every other day I will have to visit him until he can get into a full time care home.

[crusian]

11 hours ago, salokcinnodrog said:

No chance of getting to the syndicate while he is in hospital, even if he goes to Aldeburgh. He needs the social time with my brother and myself so every other day I will have to visit him until he can get into a full time care home.

Sorry , Nick , that was clumsy of me . I just wanted you to have some " Nick time " so your head didn't explode .

I should have remembered how important hospital visits are from when I was in hospital , and my Wife visited me .

All the very best .

[salokcinnodrog]

4 hours ago, crusian said:

Sorry , Nick , that was clumsy of me . I just wanted you to have some " Nick time " so your head didn't explode .

I should have remembered how important hospital visits are from when I was in hospital , and my Wife visited me .

All the very best .

😆no worries Mate, I know what you meant.

Believe me if the syndicate was close enough to the hospital I would fish and visit him as well, but a 60mile drive from North Suffolk to Aldeburgh is not a possibility.

I've had some 'Nick time', even if it involved a blank chub chase and two lost end tackles in a snag, and daughter and Granddaughter time with a trip to Norfolk

[crusian]

4 minutes ago, salokcinnodrog said:

😆no worries Mate, I know what you meant.

Believe me if the syndicate was close enough to the hospital I would fish and visit him as well, but a 60mile drive from North Suffolk to Aldeburgh is not a possibility.

I've had some 'Nick time', even if it involved a blank chub chase and two lost end tackles in a snag, and daughter and Granddaughter time with a trip to Norfolk

What a lovely Granddaughter , who looks very determined .

Shooting off at a tangent I saw a post on Facebook that said Bromeswell was up for sale ? .

 

[salokcinnodrog]

On 08/09/2025 at 16:26, crusian said:

What a lovely Granddaughter , who looks very determined .

Shooting off at a tangent I saw a post on Facebook that said Bromeswell was up for sale ? .

 

A granddaughter who pinched and ate a couple of chunks of luncheon meat dusted in turmeric and garam masala... 

 

Bromeswell is on a few estate agents and as much as I would love it...

[crusian]

11 hours ago, salokcinnodrog said:

A granddaughter who pinched and ate a couple of chunks of luncheon meat dusted in turmeric and garam masala... 

 

Bromeswell is on a few estate agents and as much as I would love it...

" A granddaughter who pinched and ate a couple of chunks of luncheon meat dusted in turmeric and garam masala... " . No wonder that you didn't catch any Chub if your Granddaughter is eating your bait ! .

Maybe Carp.com could club together and buy Bromeswell 😁

[salokcinnodrog]

On 07/09/2025 at 22:13, crusian said:

Well that's sounds encouraging , Nick .

When your Dad is back at Aldeburgh hopefully you can draw breath , and relax a little after your difficult few weeks .

With these big winds , and rain of late they should be biting down your syndicate .

😃  

Hopefully now things should settle down, my dad has been transferred to a rehabilitation unit in a care home quite local to me. He is still confused and unable to make decisions for himself with his dementia so my brother and I have signed the contract for the free treatment for 2-6weeks. It does mean that Dom and I can do alternative day visits to him, which might mean I can actually get fishing in again on the syndicate.

On a negative note I had to scrap my Honda Civic after a failed MOT, but have a hire car even if it is a Skoda Yeti.

[crusian]

10 hours ago, salokcinnodrog said:

Hopefully now things should settle down, my dad has been transferred to a rehabilitation unit in a care home quite local to me. He is still confused and unable to make decisions for himself with his dementia so my brother and I have signed the contract for the free treatment for 2-6weeks. It does mean that Dom and I can do alternative day visits to him, which might mean I can actually get fishing in again on the syndicate.

On a negative note I had to scrap my Honda Civic after a failed MOT, but have a hire car even if it is a Skoda Yeti.

At last a breathing space for you and your Brother ; your Dad's in safe hands , and much easier to visit regularly .

Shame about your car , at least it lasted while you were commuting to Aldburgh . 

Skoda Yeti , ooh I've been looking to buy one of those , but my Wife is not so keen 😢 .

Well tight lines , Nick , and best wishes to your Dad .

😃

 

[salokcinnodrog]

12 hours ago, crusian said:

At last a breathing space for you and your Brother ; your Dad's in safe hands , and much easier to visit regularly .

Shame about your car , at least it lasted while you were commuting to Aldburgh . 

Skoda Yeti , ooh I've been looking to buy one of those , but my Wife is not so keen 😢 .

Well tight lines , Nick , and best wishes to your Dad .

😃

 

Honda and VW are my two preferred manufacturers, and while Skoda is owned by VW, it just doesn't feel as comfortable and is slightly short of power. I've also found it slightly more difficult to balance the clutch and accelerator on starts. There is room for the gear, but not loads more as you would think. I'd happily go back to the new model Golf, although I am not sure on the liftback of the newer Civics.

 

I did see my dad today, he was dressed but in his room as I think he finds daytime television and the lack of conversation in the lounge annoying. He doesn't understand that it's a rehab unit, and they've got various stages of dementia.

[crusian]

16 minutes ago, salokcinnodrog said:

Honda and VW are my two preferred manufacturers, and while Skoda is owned by VW, it just doesn't feel as comfortable and is slightly short of power. I've also found it slightly more difficult to balance the clutch and accelerator on starts. There is room for the gear, but not loads more as you would think. I'd happily go back to the new model Golf, although I am not sure on the liftback of the newer Civics.

 

I did see my dad today, he was dressed but in his room as I think he finds daytime television and the lack of conversation in the lounge annoying. He doesn't understand that it's a rehab unit, and they've got various stages of dementia.

Thanks for the car info. , Nick . I currently have a 2003 Honda  Civic , but I could do with some  extra height as the cars with Zenon lights dazzle me . I used to have a  2003 Honda  CRV , so maybe I'll go for a newer version ? .

I'm thinking that the fact your Dad wants to engage with people , and day time tv is annoying him is a positive as it sounds  like he wants to be stimulated ? .

All the best .

😃

[salokcinnodrog]

21 hours ago, crusian said:

Thanks for the car info. , Nick . I currently have a 2003 Honda  Civic , but I could do with some  extra height as the cars with Zenon lights dazzle me . I used to have a  2003 Honda  CRV , so maybe I'll go for a newer version ? .

I'm thinking that the fact your Dad wants to engage with people , and day time tv is annoying him is a positive as it sounds  like he wants to be stimulated ? .

All the best .

😃

My brother has a newer model CRV, and I have been in it on a decent journey when we came back from Tottenham Stadium when the Chicago Bears beat Jacksonville. It's nice, comfortable and on my list of 'possibles', as is the Nissan X-Trail.

 

I've got a collection of books for my Dad, the type of things that interest him, the cracking of Enigma, Orford Island and it's uses in military research, The Channel Island and German Occupation and the development of the Spitfire amongst others.

His problem with socialising is he gets an interest in something and doesn't understand that it is not always relevant, or that in the case of the charity work he used to do for Greenways that during school holidays children would be included so he needed a DBS.